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The movies show it a lot, and perhaps you’ve seen it being done in public too. It’s called the French kiss, and we will show you how to do it correctly.
First though, the French kiss is one of the kissing styles that bring out the passionate side of couples. It’s a good gesture of romantic affection. So, if you’re reading this, chances are that you want to learn how to do it without encountering an embarrassing faux pas.
How to French Kiss Well – The First Step
It’s important to note that a soft, smooth and evenly moist mouth is an ideal environment to do this. Therefore, before springing into action, you need to ensure that your lips are not dry, because it will destruct your partner.
If your lips are always dry, you can make a few quick fixes.
(a) Drink lots of water, because this is a sign that you’re dehydrated.
(b) If you don’t have much time, run your wet tongue over your upper and lower lips, then press together.
Whether you want to kiss them the French way or not, fresh breath is required. Again, this is certainly very important because your mouth will remain open in such a kiss.
If you know that you’re about to kiss someone, take a Fresh mint gum after you brush your teeth. Also, try avoiding foods that leave bad odor on your mouth, i.e onion, ginger, milk etc.
Find A Good Moment
A good kiss is a mix of building tension and intimacy. Therefore, you should choose the right moment, i.e. when both of you are relaxed so that you can lose yourself into the experience.
There should be privacy so that people don’t interrupt your session.
Also, try and pick up clues from the other person. Whether you are kissing a girl or a boy, watch their body language keenly. For instance, you may notice they are looking at your lips, locking eyes or even sitting progressively close to you.
Look into their eyes. And if you want to announce your intention, look into their lips, then back slowly into their eyes.
Women have a tendency of looking down, then looking up at a man’s lashes with the intent of becoming a little bit flirtatious.
Smile at them
A simple smile will keep it light and fun. It also makes both parties feel safe and relaxed. However, this kind of smile should be soft and genuine. It shouldn’t be a fake one, or even an intense smile.
You can smile will lips closed, so that you don’t show your teeth. This way, your smile will look romantic and alluring.
If the time seems to be right, begin moving slowly, but not too slowly to the extend of it losing its spark.
The moment they send you signals that they are ready, don’t waste any minute. Close the gap between the two of you, facing one another (with your heads only a few inches apart).
Now, this is the moment you will prepare to angle your head into the right position no matter the type of kiss.
Just take it slow. The slow approach will bring tension & anticipation. However, it shouldn’t be too slow or two quick.
When you move in slow, they will watch you coming and react by meeting their lips with yours. Again, slow means you won’t accidentally bump your heads in case the other person suddenly changes their mind and turns away.
Tilting Heads When Kissing
If you meet without tilting heads, you will bump into each others’ nose. So, just tilt your head slightly. If you notice that they are tilting towards your direction, switch to the other.
However, this shouldn’t give you so much pressure. If you accidentally bump your noses, you’ll automatically adjust your heads into a more comfortable kissing position so that your noses don’t stand on the way.
Close Your Eyes
If you keep your eyes open, you’ll come across as dishonest or insincere. At this point, people are usually tempted to open their eyes and look at what their partners look like amid the throes of romantic passion.
Now, the danger of this is that you may lose the mood of kissing. That’s why it’s recommended that you close your eyes – it gives you the chance to live in the moment, instead of observing things at close range.
Open your eyes slowly the moment you pull apart. Remember not to present a stiff pucker, as if you’ve been kissing your grandmother. If you do this, it will bring non-romantic feelings.
Kissing Tips: How to French Kiss The Right Way
(a) You should lightly touch your lips over the other person’s. Ideally, you should use feather-light pressure on your lips, instead of diving right away into a full-blown French kiss. See image below.
Time to Test the waters
By now, you should have built a solid foundation for this type of a kiss – the French kiss. Give your partner a subtle hint about your readiness to move into the next level.
- Open your mouth a little bit wide, so that the other person feels invited to make that first tongue contact.
-The next step would be to lock your lips. i.e. your partner’s lower lip should be in-between your two lips. With the tip of your tongue, slightly lick the lower part of their lip – remember this should be quick. Do it in a smooth but swift motion that lasts for less than a second. If your partner is interested, they will reciprocate.
If your partner doesn’t respond to the above steps, simply pull away and focus on regular kissing. Give it another chance.
More images on how to kiss a woman the French style
You can also watch this YouTube video on how to kiss well – specifically the French kiss!
It is so unfortunate to state that this button might not exist at all (according to a study published in the Journal Urology. But on the flip-side of this, researchers say another structure is responsible for the female orgasm.
The term G-spot has been going round for ages now. It all started when a German gynecologist named Ernest Grafenberg discovered a sensitive spot on the front wall of the female vagina.
Ever since this discovery was made, we’ve been making desperate attempts to buy sex toys or even try different position to hit this magic button. Could all this be wasted effort?
Well, this is not exact. But the biggest problem with people is that when they think of the word ”button”, their minds believe it’s something that can be pushed to make women cum/achieve orgasm. That’s according to Emmanuele Jannini, a renowned professor in endocrinology and sexology at Tor Vergata University in Rome.
The study discovered that this button has been demonstrated to not exist at all, and that there’s no concrete spot on the female anatomy which can stimulate orgasm. But this doesn’t mean that nothing exists.
In case you are a firm believer of G-spot orgasm, and you actually experience it, then you need not to worry, because your vagina is never delusional. Other studies show that women can orgasm in a vast array of ways. This may include vaginal penetration, clitoral stimulation, and even through nipplegasms.
According to this research, female orgasm, specifically from the vagina is as a result of a complex structure, which when stimulated, can bring pleasure. This complex structure is made of more than one spot – it’s a network of several spots interconnected together! The study proposed a new term for this, which is believed to be the main reason why women experience vaginal orgasm.
What’s Inside the Cookie Jar?
The new term is called ”Clitourethrovaginal (CUV) complex. This term describes the interaction between a woman’s clitoris, the urethra and the exterior parts of the vaginal wall. This is where the G-spot is believed to be located anyway.
So, the question is, how exactly are all these things stimulated together?
Well, the researchers used an imaging technique called ultrasonography. Through this technique, they discovered that the clits was more than just that little button you’re familiar with.
The clitoris actually has bulbs interconnected on either side of the vagina. Therefore, the theory is, a man’s thrusting will have the potential of hitting the anterior of the vagina, as well as stimulate both the inner bulbs of the clits and the urethral tissues. This results in a good orgasmic experience – like the ones you see in porn videos!
Lots of women say G-spot orgasm tends to be sweeter than clitoral orgasm/climax, and this study may have explained the reason why that is so. When this is the case, more orgasm and blood flow is involved. Furthermore, Jannini says that when CUV complex is stimulated, a bigger brain reaction occurs, and this does not happen in the case of clitoral stimulation.
Now, whether we decide to coin it as CUV complex or G-spot, why exactly is it that some women experience it while others don’t? First though, it’s important to note that the male genitalia anatomy is the same across all men, compared to the female genitalia anatomy, which varies across women. This variation also occurs within the same woman, and not just from one woman to the other.
Studies continue to show that some women have a shorter distance between their vaginal opening and their clitoris. This should be a bonus for these women, isn’t it?
Furthermore, the female anatomy may change due to hormonal changes and size of their partner. For instance, their vaginal wall may naturally expand to accommodate the bigger dude, and their clitoris may swell during certain times.
The above theories explain why women may experience vaginal orgasm, or sometimes not experience it at all. It also explains why some women may experience it while their counterparts are not experiencing it.
So, what does this mean as far as your sex life is concerned?
Women can use this information to achieve vaginal orgasm. They can try different sex positions that aim at the front wall of the vagina. Effective styles include girl on top, doggy style and many more. They can try adding some clitoral stimulation as well. The aim is to extend the pleasure to the inner bulbs of the clitoral organ.
Jannini affirms that not all female anatomy is equal, so if this doesn’t work, they shouldn’t curse themselves. They need not to form ideological judgements that are related to their sex life.